The 52 Seductions
Ohhhh, I have a book you are going to fall head over Westwood heels in heart with. I loved it so much, I read it one deelish sitting, it's called The 52 Seductions and is by blogger and girl o' fabulousness, Betty Herbert. Basically, Betty and her husband Herbert remembered whimsically the days when they couldn't keep their hands off each other, but then real-life happened, and their sub-duvet status was set to coitus interupputus indefinitely. Enter Betty and her challenge setting abilities. After a weekend of spontaneous sex, Betty and Herbert remember what they've been missing, and set themselves the task of spending a year seducing each other - ohhh la la! This book will have you laughing, nodding knowingly and pulling a cringe-y face at Betty's total frankness and attention to detail as the couple explore their hopes, fears and disappointments and answer the burning question, 'does monogamy really mean a lifetime of monotony in the bedroom?' FYI: since I put the book down, the beau is now looking at me somewhat expectantly...
Come meet author-girl Betty Herbert, she's rather fabulous.
Describe Betty Herbert in 5 words... Delightful, funny, tall, excitable, hungry
52 seductions started as a blog, what made you start writing it? Desperation! I really wanted to do something about our flagging sex life, and I knew from bitter experience that just trying to have more sex wouldn't work. I invented the project because I really wanted to force us to think about what turned us on, and I decided to blog about it because I thought it would force us to stick to it. It's now a book o' awesomeness, how do you feel about sharing your seductions with the world in book form? Great! But it's a weird feeling too - now it's out in the world, I have no control over it. Unlike blogging, I can't explain parts that people don't understand, or add and extra bits when I feel something is missing. It's a very disembodied experience to see it being talked about in the papers and on TV.
Out of the 52 seductions in the book, which was your most successful? Ooh that's a tough one! Different seductions were successful for different reasons. For example, the upside-down 69 made us laugh so much that didn't matter I couldn't do a headstand. And the final one was great because it felt like coming home - I could be honest about what would turn me on and not feel ashamed or shy.
And the worst? There were plenty of those, too! Early morning sex sucked - and we're still in dispute over whether Herbert fell asleep in the middle of it.
How does Herbert your husband feel about sharing his sexual exploits in this book? I was really worried about it because he chose not to read the blog while it was being written - the first time he read it was when I'd completed the first draft of the book. But actually he loved it - he said afterwards, 'I feel like you've written a book about how much you love me.' I'm so grateful that he could see that - I was worried he'd fixate on the bad things and not see the overall good. So what is the REAL truth about sex in a relationship, Betty? Can sex REALLY survive after the heady excitement of first date passion? It can, but you have to work at it. For some couples, it comes naturally, but for most of us it's about planning, organisation and commitment. Sounds boring, but it's so worth it, because you reap the rewards in terms of communication and intimacy.
What's next in the world o' Betty? More sex? More books? Both? Definitely both, although I don't think I could face another year of seductions! I'm working on some ideas for new books now, but I'd quite like to write about our new project to make a baby next - I've already started blogging about it.
Quick fire round - what's your favourite: Shop: Daunt Books in Marylebone. A bookworm's dream. Make-up brand: I'm a Laura Mercier addict City: Barcelona Food: Spag Bol, but it has to be one I've cooked myself! Quote: 'Don't wrestle with pigs. The pig enjoys it, and you get covered in shit.' Motto for life: Get on with it. Book: Jonathan Strange & Mr Norrell by Susanna Clarke or L'Etranger by Albert Camus TV programme: Currently, The Killing Movie: When Harry Met Sally, of course!